What is True Service? How Will I Bring True Service to Coaching You? Do You Have Your Own Motives When You Serve Someone? On Psychoanalysis, Nietzsche, the Perils of the Ego and The Joy of Service, Self-Discovery and Self-Recovery...
Transformative Life Coaching is a form of true service. My coach (yes all coaches have coaches - that's because we truly believe in coaching) asked me today to meditate on how I serve you. What does it mean to truly serve? Do you serve anyone? What are your motives for that service? This is what came up for me when I reflect on what it means to BE of service to the men that I coach...
What is true service? Let's shine a light on it...
Plato said "He who is not a good servant will not be a good master."
What is service?
Friedrich Nietzsche
Nietzsche, one of the greatest, and most controversial, Western thinkers and philosophers, states in the book 'When Nietzsche Wept' by Irvin Yalom, which my psychiatrist recommended me to read this week, that "All actions are self-directed. All service is self-serving. All love is self-loving." Would you agree? The book is part fact and part fable, and gives a fascinating insight into the very origins of psychoanalysis. In the narrative, Doctor Josef Breuer, one of the founding fathers of psychoanalysis, and who is Nietzsche's physician in the book as the German Philosopher is suicidal and has 'incurable despair' (psychoanalysis was not born yet) replies to Nietzsche's statement by saying "Your destiny is to be one of the great philosophers, thus my treatment not only may help your physical being, but will also help you in your project of becoming who you are." Nietzsche exclaims "And if I am as you say to become great, then you as my animator, my saviour, become even greater! In all that you have told me about your motives in the alleviation of my distress, there was nothing of me in it!" This suggests that Nietzsche truly believed that was is correct in his statement at the beginning of this paragraph. Dr Breuer replies "Professor Nietzsche, I know that you have been betrayed in the past and therefore justified to anticipate betrayal in the future." Is it possible to serve another human being in a 100 percent self-less way?
Nietzsche is a fascinating figure. He was much misunderstood, partly as his own philosophies were self-contradictory, also because his sister who was a true propagandist used his works to her own ends, and because his philosophies have posthumously often been misappropriated and misrepresented by various groups. Nietzsche tried to forge a new third path towards new meaning in human values. Nietzsche makes us think.
Psychoanalysis
Psychoanalysis (the modern form of which is called psychodynamic therapy, which I am having at present and wow it's powerful) was developed as a means to improve mental health by bringing unconscious material into consciousness. Psychoanalysis was conceived as a medicine for the soul. We all have a soul-sickness until we take the Journey of Self-discovery. Psychoanalysis reveals the fears behind your fears behind your fears and shines the light of consciousness of them, so that we understand how our present is shaped by our childhood traumas. The passage in the book above cleverly demonstrates how even one of the greatest minds of our time, Nietzsche, was unable to believe in the true benevolence of another human being, a famous Doctor, who was instrumental in the birth of psychiatry. Why is this so?
I delved into Nietzsche's childhood to gain insight into how his philosophies, and his own illness (he felt a deep sense of isolation and despair and eventually had a complete mental breakdown) may have arisen.
The human condition
We all suffer from the human condition, and without a meaningful purpose in our lives we will never find peace, joy, serenity and love, the highest of the human emotional states. In my meditation, followed by my investigation today Nietzsche's life and philosophies are huge clues to understanding this.
Let me expand on this. We are all born with a mind that is at ease and are full of joy and unconditional love. Most of our parents, even those who deeply believe that they have our best interests at heart, are incapable of loving us unconditionally. They will love us if we behave in a way that they approve of, or achieve this or that: Because that is how they were brought up. This conditional love is a form of trauma as in order to survive we feel that we need to favour attachment to our parents in lieu of being true to our authentic selves. This fractures our true Self (note the capital S) into a fake self (the ego), which is the mask (I discuss this is my article about 'Why are we Killing Our Icons?') that we feel that we have to present to our parents and to the world in order to be accepted and loved, and our shadow self (which I discuss in my article about 'Superachievers and Our Shadow Self'), which represents all the parts of us that we feel the need to hide in order to be loved. We forget who we really are. This is the origin of most emotional distress, mental illness, addiction, and all forms of conflict: Ruined Christmas lunches, divorces, work disputes and wars are all simply egos fighting. It's why we grow up feeling betrayed - we weren't allowed to be 'us' if we wanted to be loved. We sacrifice our authenticity, our real Self, our soul in order to survive: Dr Gabor Maté explains this so eloquently. The problem is, that the human condition, the coping mechanism that we develop to avoid the unbearable pain, is fatal to us as adults unless we wake up...
Dr Gabor Maté on 'Attachment Versus Authenticity'
Our 'civilised' Western Society then also expects us to have external measures of success to prove that we are worthy, adorning our ego. All our relationships are then ruined before they even start, as we grew up thinking that those that should have loved us the most have betrayed us, and that is confirmed by every person and situation that we ever encounter. So we seek relationships that re-enact our 'scripts' or 'toxic schemas' of our childhoods. We don't trust anyone. We are even betrayed by established religion as it involves so much guilt, condemning what it sees as sin, and creates punishing Gods who judge us and send us to hell.
This is why Nietzsche, who was appointed Professor of University of Basel at age 24, the youngest Professor ever at that University, was unable to trust in Dr Breuer. Nietzsche later wrote that "God is dead", having a total lack of trust in the moralising (conditionally loving) God featured in much established religion. However, without God he felt that the future of man might spiral into a society of nihilism, devoid of any meaning. Nietzsche's father was a Lutherian Minister (Christian faith), whom he was very close to, but who died after suffering from a brain tumour, when Nietzsche was 4 years old. His younger brother died a year later. He had a sombre, lonely childhood.
The Philosophy of Friedrich Nietzsche
Nietzsche's first book was called rather ominously 'The Birth of Tragedy.' He had to resign from his post at Basel University a decade after his appointment, then spending most of his time walking, thinking, and writing, finding solace in his pursuit of philosophy. He had a failed relationship and a complete nervous breakdown a decade after leaving the University. Through his writing, he loosened the constraining bolts of all contemporary philosophies along with all notions of Truth and falsity, writing "God is dead, and we have killed him. How shall we comfort ourselves, the murderers of all murderers? What was holiest and mightiest of all that the world has yet owned has bled to death under our knives. Is not the greatness of this deed too great for us? Must we ourselves not become Gods simply to appear worthy of it?" Perhaps he said this as he himself had killed God in his mind. This wasn't a celebration for him. It was a stark warning of what it meant. If you can't trust that your parents and loved ones won't abandon you because of your experience of childhood, then how can you trust in the unconditional love of a God or higher power that appears equally elusive and conditionally loving?
With his philosophy collapsed all of European morality and its values. He both predicted and feared that without the replacement of religion, humanity would be left to struggle with no clear system or human experience of meaning and devolve into widespread despair. He said "There are no facts, only interpretations." He did not believe in an Ultimate Truth.
Nietzsche felt that the creative arts could be used to create deeper truths and fill the void of higher connection and meaning, especially where it could detach the individual from dependence on any collective experience or cultural mechanisms as these were stale and lacklustre, and focus on the individual pursuit of creative expression (I agree with this, and journalling or writing is often recommended for mental wellbeing) and subjective greatness, placing the creation of meaning squarely in the hands of each individual. There are two camps of people in this world: Those that create (coaching and service is creation) and those that consume. In other words heaven or hell. I now know which camp I like living in.
Superman
The subjective greatness was sometimes translated as the 'Superman', who follows their own desires unapologetically, exhibiting selfishness, lack of humility, aggressiveness, craving power and grandiosity (a pretty accurate description of the false self - the ego). So, his 'Superman' was a perfect description of the ego - the terrified 7-year old us that rules and ruins our lives unless we become conscious of it through psychotherapy. Our world is full of 7-year olds fighting each other. Aristotle wrote “Give me a child until he is 7 and I will show you the man.” That man needs Superman to help him as he is only a frightened child. However, you do not. You just need to remember who you are.
Nietzsche set up this 'Superman' (the ego) as an idealised version of one's self - a perfect and powerful being, who has overcome all their fears. In therapy and recovery groups this is called 'King Baby' as it is really a 7-year old child's version of what saviour would look like. The "I want, I want , I want" way of being that has come to represent who most of us are today. He wrote "The world is will to power, and nothing besides."
Nietzsche on The Superman in 'Thus Spoke Zarathustra'
I think that I know where Nietzsche got his idea of Superman from. When I was a child I tried to drown myself as I could not bear the overwhelming pain of my dysfunctional family dynamic. I was rescued by a passer by who appeared out of no-where. A strong man dived into the pool and pulled me up out of the water. After trauma therapy I realised that the only Superman that I have been looking for is the adult me. We can learn to 'reparent our Selves'. We don't need Superman to swoop in. That's where Nietzsche got it most wrong - he was looking outside of himself for a hero. We can ask others to help us to search for the hero inside your self - humanity is not unkind. As the lyrics to the song by M People 'Search For The Hero' go:
Sometimes the river flows but nothing breathes A train arrives but never leaves, it's a shame Oh, life like love that's walked out of the door Of being rich or being poor, such a shame
But it's then, then that faith arrives To make your feelings alive And that's why, you should keep on aiming high Just seek yourself and you will shine
You've got to search for the hero inside yourself Search for the secrets you hide Search for the hero inside yourself Until you find the key to your life
In this life, long and hard though it may seem Live it as you'd live a dream, aim so high Just keep the flame of truth burning bright The missing treasure you must find
Because you and only you alone Can build a bridge across the stream Weave your spell in life's rich tapestry Your passport to a feeling supreme
You've got to search for the hero inside yourself Search for the secrets you hide Search for the hero inside yourself Until you find the key to your life
M People: Search for the Hero. If only Nietzsche had heard M People
Nietzsche said that this ideal version of ourselves could never be reached, so it was insatiable: This insatiability is the basis of all addiction as described in the incredibly insightful and totally game-changing book by Dr Gabor Maté 'In the Realms of Hungry Ghosts.'
Dr Gabor Maté discussing 'In The Realms of Hungry Ghosts'
Dr Maté presents it not as a discrete phenomenon confined to a 'weak-willed' few, but as a continuum that runs through (and even underpins) our entire modern 'civilised' society; not as a medical 'condition', but rather the result of a complex interplay of personal history, emotional development and brain chemistry: The human condition that is the ubiquitous coping mechanism for the pain of the dysfunctionality of our current world. You are always left wanting more, until you destroy your self completely. You are an insatiable 'hungry ghost.' Dr Maté promotes Self understanding as the first key to healing and wellness. Gabor Maté says that 90 percent of us are addicts, and the other 10 percent are kidding themselves. You don't believe it? Try taking the ipad off your 3 year old and watch their response... In his book 'The Myth of Normal' Dr Maté has said that virtually all disease is actually a natural reflection of life in an abnormal culture, as we grow further and further apart from our true Selves. The pathway to healing is reconnection.
Nietzsche did say that it was power over one's self, with psychological and spiritual self-mastery and continuous growth. The driving force was a continued self-dissatisfaction with a need for self-improvement. He thought that this was the answer to overcoming the problem of meaning and value in life. This seems like the worst of all worlds. It involved humans struggling towards, but never reaching an idealised version of themselves, which would make their lives worthwhile. Unlike his predecessor Arthur Schopenhauer, who proposed that suffering is best minimised, Nietzsche argued that suffering was a good thing and should be leaned into as it was fuel for amassing strength and power. In my recent article on 'Emotions' I suggest that while pain is essential to Self-discovery, suffering is optional. Suffering drove Nietzsche to insanity and total collapse of his psyche. His fear drove him to a personal hell.
We are doing it all wrong: Nietzsche's demise
Nietzsche’s Thus Spoke Zarathustra, considered one of his greatest books, outlines his theories of the will to power and the need to conquer fear. Here is my take on fear. His total mental breakdown after seeing a horse being flogged in the street by its owner and in his final moments of lucidity hugged and cried to the horse "I understand you, I understand you."His final moments appeared to be an act of complete contradiction to his own philosophy, expressing compassion for weakness. He fell into complete madness and catatonia. His mind had finally collapsed under the weight of itself. His mind had gone too far into itself, he had become disconnected from other people, into an illusory world, just like an internet Troll. According to his own standards, his life was a failure. He had made very little of himself after a promising start. His work, after his death gained a massive following, some of which would lead to horrific misguided and ill-conceived applications. Sadly, the worst of these echo through modern culture every day both literally and symbolically. He suggested that we should overcome and sacrifice our Self, our health and our sanity in the hope of becoming something greater and more aesthetically pleasing and to become self-serving than we are is a massive tribute to the ego. His suffering, and the continual pursuit of desire and self-destruction in the insatiable pursuit of an unattainable end-goal are an excellent example of how not to live. And his tragic end was a testament to, and example of, that. His predictions of modern issues were accurate, but because of his philosophies not despite them. He saw life as negative and meaningless. Why would that be anyone's goal? That seems to be the modern human condition. Nothing is ever good, meaningful, valuable, beautiful, or strong enough! When will we see sense? We are doing it all wrong.
Nietzsche said in 'When Nietzsche Wept' “Is it my duty to impose a Truth on others that they wish not to know?… Sometimes teachers must be hard. Life is hard and dying is hard. The task is to reduce stress and enhance the bodies ability to heal. A prophet is: A teacher of bitter truths. An unpopular prophet. This is what I am. I am dedicated to making things difficult for my invisible body of students. I place myself in God’s hands. Who can say that this is not a form of the Truth.? I dare to say it. Such fervour for the Truth… It is not the Truth that is holy but he search for one’s own Truth. Can there be a more sacred act than self inquiry? My philosophical work is built on sand. My views shift continually. But one of my granite sentences is “Become who you are” and how can one discover who and what one is without the Truth? True choice can blossom only in the sunshine of Truth. How can it be otherwise?.. I love that which makes us more than we are.”
Nietzsche tragically, and I believe mistakenly, only saw what one could not have as being the goal. He never got it, and he died as a result. If one does not agree that suffering is essential in the name of 'progress' then the rest is based on a false premise and is simply misdirection. He was clearly confused and his work was often self-contradictory despite his brilliant mind. He never 'thought with his heart.' I believe that here is such a thing as Truth. Nietzsche was his own nemesis. When you live in ego, you are behind enemy lines. He did not love himself, as no-one had ever shown him how to love. He had never heard of letting go, surrender, humility, or compassion. His philosophy and views were misappropriated, misread and exploited by the Nazis, Trump-ists, Jordan Peterson, and also it seems by internet Trolls. He was totally misguided, as a result of his childhood trauma. As a result he couldn't see the Truth, despite his massive intellect. The mind is the very first stage of the Transformative Journey, but one needs to drop out of our mind and into our hearts to find real wisdom and Truth. His fear (ego) told him that he had to look outside to find Superman. This is why he ultimately had no real personal power. The Kingdom of God is within. We are whole and perfect. Recovery is simply realising that and integrating our fractured parts - our wounded inner child, our shadow into our highest Self (right hand side of the table below).
Nietzsche needed an external Superman as he didn't have faith in himself. He was living every day as his wounded inner child - his 7-year old self instead of choosing to be his higher Self
My reflections on my BEing of service
Nietzsche had the insight to warn us by using one of his aphorisms: “You repay a teacher badly by becoming merely a pupil.” In other words, read me but think further. His greatest gift to us what not his philosophy, but how his interrogative approach makes us think for our Selves. So, to return to his original statement at the beginning of this article: "All service is self-serving... There is no me (meaning himself) in it." Nietzsche was challenging us to contradict him. When I meditated on this as suggested by my coach my intuition told me that Nietzsche was so lost in ego out of fear as could not trust that anyone could love him enough to serve him, including himself: To love him unconditionally with only regard for him and expect nothing in return. That is what I mean by my serving you. Because I have remember who I am, as a result of my Journey, I see you as your highest version of you until you see it your Self, as you take your own Journey inside. It will take courage, but the rewards are infinite. That is what coaching is. That is BEing service to another: You.
Service is not Self-serving
'Self-service' has become ubiquitous as an expression in our society. Yet many great minds have stated that service is not about the Self. It is about one's purpose being to awaken the Self in others, without expectation of anything in return.
Albert Einstein, one of the greatest minds in human history wrote "Only a life lived for others is a life worthwhile."
Dr Wayne Dyer wrote "If you want to feel connected to your own purpose, know this for certain: Your purpose will only be found in service to others, and in being connected to the something far greater than your mind/body/ego." The question I ask the ego is "Why are you trying to be so big like Superman, you are not so small?"
I think it's pretty fair to say that Nietzsche suffered from childhood trauma. My evidence for this is his increasing despair, his own terrorising fear, his ego's insatiable need for greatness and some kind of 'external' power, retreating into isolation, his declining mental health and his inability to open his heart. I have enormous compassion for him: It's so sad that he didn't wake up from his nightmares. So few of us do. No wonder that Nietzsche did not trust Dr Breuer's attempts to treat him. He had been abandoned by those that were supposed to have loved him the most, and betrayed by religious ideas of a punishing God. I am celebrating the birth of another way, another way of BEing. Some people call it 'spirituality', which has nothing to do with religion. Some people call it love, compassion, energy or service. For me then, service is the restoration of trust in humanity by showing unconditional love in all our relationships: The idea that we want someone to be happy without expecting anything in return.
Anger
Why are you so angry? Your anger is trying to teach you something. The Dalai Lama wrote "Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them." Mahatma Gandhi wrote "Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding. The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. You must be the change you wish to see in the world."
You are enough: The Journey is within...
As for the myths that have grown up around Nietzsche, the last word surely should belong to the man himself. “I am frightened,” he wrote, “By the thought of what unqualified and unsuitable people may invoke my authority one day. Yet that is the torment of every teacher … he knows that, given the circumstances and accidents, he can become a disaster as well as a blessing to mankind.” Thank you Nietzsche for challenging us to think and for this valuable lesson, and may your soul rest in peace. Everyone can become a blessing to mankind. We simply need to drop out of our minds and into our heart. The one thing that Nietzsche got right, other than creativity being a way of communing with something higher, is that he challenged us to pave a new direction for ourselves. Are you ready to start your Journey inside? Superman isn't real. You are the light that the world needs. I see you, I hear you. You are enough.
What are you doing for others?
Martin Luther King, Jr. wrote "Life's most persistent and urgent question is, 'What are you doing for others?' Albert Schweitzer wrote "I don't know what your destiny will be, but one thing I know: the only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve." Eckhart Tolle says that our inner purpose is to awaken, and our outer purpose is that which is aligned to our inner purpose: To guide others to awaken. Mahatma Gandhi said "The best way to find your Self is to lose yourself in the service of others." Florence Nightingale wrote "God spoke to me and called me to His Service. What form this service was to take the voice did not say." 'God' is simply the still inner voice inside you. If you follow it then you will know the Truth and the truth will set you free.
What are your superpowers? You don't need Superman
Florence Nightingale said “If I could give you information of my life it would be to show how a woman of very ordinary ability has been led by God in strange and unaccustomed paths to do in His service what He has done in her. And if I could tell you all, you would see how God has done all, and I nothing. I have worked hard, very hard, that is all; and I have never refused God anything.”
We need to use our superpowers - we don't need a superman to save us. Our superpowers are love, joy, peace, connection, humility, courage and service. Mahatma Gandhi said "I reduce my Self to zero.. All other pleasures and possessions pale into nothingness before service which is rendered in a spirit of joy.” Tagore wrote “I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” St Francis of Assisi wrote “Keep a clear eye toward life's end. Do not forget your purpose and destiny as God's creature. What you are in his sight is what you are and nothing more. Remember that when you leave this earth, you can take nothing that you have received...but only what you have given; a full heart enriched by honest service, love, sacrifice, and courage.” Robert Louis Stevenson wrote “So long as we love we serve; so long as we are loved by others, I would almost say that we are indispensable; and no man is useless while he has a friend.”
Have no fear
Mahatma Ghandi wrote “Do not worry in the least about yourself, leave all worry to God,' - this appears to be the commandment in all religions. This need not frighten anyone. He who devotes himself to service with a clear conscience, will day by day grasp the necessity for it in greater measure, and will continually grow richer in faith. The path of service can hardly be trodden by one who is not prepared to renounce self-interest, and to recognise the conditions of his birth. Consciously or unconsciously, every one of us does render some service or other. If we cultivate the habit of doing this service deliberately, our desire for service will steadily grow stronger, and will make not only for our own happiness but that of the world at large.”
Martin Luther King Jr. said “The first question which the priest and the Levite asked was: 'If I stop to help this man, what will happen to me?' But...the good Samaritan reversed the question: 'If I do not stop to help this man, what will happen to him?” What will you do?
Jesus was a man: You have his personal power within you
Here is the secret: Jesus was simply a human being. The difference between him and us is that he only came from a place of love. We all have that potential but we don't see the path of love out of fear.
Jesus was very consistent about service in that it embodies humility and love:
In Matthew 10:39 Jesus said “He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it.”
In Mark 9:34 Jesus said "But [the disciples] kept silent, for on the way they had argued with one another about who was the greatest. And he sat down and called the twelve. And he said to them, “If anyone would be first, he must be last of all and servant of all.”
In Mark 10:45 Jesus said "For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life a ransom for many.”
In John 13:34 Jesus said “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you.”
In Matthew 23:11 Jesus said “But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant.”
Mother Teresa wrote “I see Jesus in every human being. I say to myself, this is hungry Jesus, I must feed him. This is sick Jesus. This one has leprosy or gangrene; I must wash him and tend to him. I serve because I love Jesus.”
Love is all you need
Teilhard de Chardin wrote that "Love alone is capable of uniting living beings in such a way as to complete and fulfil them, for it alone takes them and joins them by what is deepest in themselves."
Khalil Gibran wrote in The Prophet on Love:
"Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
On giving: From The Prophet by Khalil Gibran
Then said a rich man. Speak to us of giving.
And he answered:
You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of your Self that you truly give...
And there are those who have little and give it all.
These are the believers in life and the bounty of life, and their coffer is never empty.
There are those who give with joy, and that joy is their reward.
And there are those who give with pain, and that pain is their baptism.
And there are those who give and know not pain in giving,
nor do they seek joy, nor give with mindfulness or virtue;
They give as in yonder valley the myrtle breathes
its fragrance into space.
Through the hands of such as these God speaks,
and from behind their eyes He smiles upon the Earth.
It is well to give when asked, but it is better to give unasked, through understanding;
And to the open-handed the search for the one who shall receive is joy greater than giving.
And is there aught you would withold?
All you have shall some day be given:
Therefore give now, that the season of giving may be yours and not your inheritors...
See first that you yourself deserve to be a giver, and an instrument of giving.
For in Truth it is life that gives unto life - while you, who deem your Self a giver, are but a witness.
On work: From The Prophet by Khalil Gibran
And all work is empty save when there is love
And when you work with love you bind your Self to your Self, and to one another, and to God.
And what is it to work with love?
It is to weave the cloth with threads drawn from your heart...
Work is love made visible.
Meet the soul walking upon your path
I have heard that the only difference between us and God is that we struggle to see that our path, our purpose, our blueprint of how we will serve is already set. As Einstein said "God does not play dice."
Kahlil Gibran wrote in The Prophet On Self-Knowledge:
For Self is a sea boundless and measureless...
Say not "I have found the path of the soul."
Say rather, "I have met the soul walking upon my path"...
The soul unfolds itself, like a lotus of countless petals.
Be Self-less
Confucius wrote "If you want happiness for a year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, help someone else." Martin Luther King Jr. said “Everybody can be great...because anybody can serve. You don't have to have a college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.” Anne Frank wrote "No one has ever become poor by giving."Mother Teresa wrote “At the end of life we will not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made, how many great things we have done. We will be judged by "I was hungry, and you gave me something to eat, I was naked and you clothed me. I was homeless, and you took me in.” She wrote these beautiful words:
“The Simple Path
Silence is Prayer
Prayer is Faith
Faith is Love
Love is Service
The Fruit of Service is Peace”
Conclusion
Trust that there is a plan for your life. An almighty power would not want us to be in service to them, but to serve each other. Meditate quietly on this and the answers will come. My gift will be to be in service to you, for your awakening to your highest Self, as your guide, with no expectation, with humility, infinite compassion and unconditional love. I see you, I hear you. You don't need Superman to save you, you just need a gentle reminder of who you really are, without the limitations of fear. You are Clark Kent and Superman is inside YOU!
Sending you love, light, and blessings.
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