This is the itinerary of the journey of your life
I know, as I have walked this path.
Good luck: Not everyone makes it out alive. Not if you go it alone.
I am here. I see you. I hear you. I value you. You are so forgivable.
Your path...
I will guide you with signposts along the way, (which are provided as links to my other articles and blog posts or audible books within the text, and videos), to deepen the conversation about where you are heading. I will guide you by asking you questions at the relevant forks in the road. You have all the answers inside you: You just don't know it yet.
Here are the stages of the journey of your life...
Childhood
You are born with a mind that is at ease and you revel in the joy of being alive. You are 100% you: Your true Self. Nothing bothers you, not for more than a few moments anyway. You are totally present in the moment, in the same way that your puppy appears to be.
Your parents are asleep, unconscious, but you don't know it: Neither do they. How can you know, you are only a little child? You are torn between wanting to be your true Self and being petrified that that will mean that you will be abandoned by your parents. Your survival instincts kick in. There is no choice. You choose survival, like every other child would. Like every other child does. The conflict between who we are and who we want to be is at the core of the human struggle. It's your struggle. It's mine. And everyone else's. We need compassion, not drama and hate.
Dr Gabor Maté on attachment versus authenticity
You see lions everywhere: Your parents don't protect you: They are also lions. My father left when I was 2 years old. My mother remarried 3 times, including to a man who suffered from depression, and an alcoholic who didn't like children. My mother tried to commit suicide in front of me using violent means twice by the time I was 7 years old. We moved house 6 times, with as many schools and as many different sets of friends. My mother would disown me if I ever deviated from what she expected of me. She would threaten to have me adopted. You see our parents are our lions. I forgive her. She was asleep. She was unconscious. The victim of a victim of a victim. This is the human condition. The human condition conditions your mind. You find an armour to put on: It stops you feeling any of your emotions: The shame, the fear. The shame is the worst, the most excruciatingly painful emotion. It's toxic to you. You are ashamed of being you. No, you are shame. Shame has become you.
Freefalling
The earthquake
The impulse to transform
Meeting your guide
The road back - look inside
Meeting your inner child
The cave
The shadow
The body
Sending you love, light, and blessings.
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Olly Alexander Branford MD, MBBS, MA(Cantab), PhD
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I have a Bachelor's degree in Natural Sciences from Trinity College, Cambridge; a Master's Degree in Philosophy from Trinity College, Cambridge; a PhD Doctorate in Scientific Research from University College London (UCL); a Medical Degree (MD/MBBS) from The Royal Free Hospital School of Medicine, London and have been a doctor and reconstructive trauma and cancer surgeon in London for 20 years. I have published over 50 peer reviewed scientific journal articles, have been an associate editor and frequent scientific faculty member, and am the author of several scientific books. I have been awarded my Diploma in Transformative Life Coaching in London, which has International Coaching Federation (ICF) Accreditation, as well as the UK Association for Coaching (AC), and the European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC). I have been on my own transformative journey full time for four years and I am ready to be your guide to you finding out who you really are and how the world works.