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Purpose

Updated: Jan 28

What is your true purpose and the 'Golden thread'? How does it align with action and surrendering outcomes? How does our purpose in life always keep us motivated and our soul satisfied? How does purpose relate to the real you and your limitless possibility? How does purpose relate to meaning, healing, love, and work?


Most people die before realising their God-given dream.  Your purpose and creativity lead you to your real Self... 


Purpose


Purpose and motivation

We don’t need the motivation to do things we are passionate about because when we see a larger purpose, we do it from the depth of our hearts without thinking about what it will yield. When we take inspired intuitive action in line with our God-given purpose we can let go of control and our attachment to outcomes: This is how to live a truly successful life.


Most of us lose our motivation to do or continue to do something because it is something that doesn’t fulfil our inner needs. It doesn't match who we truly are. Unless our inner needs are met, we feel inadequate even after our best try. Unless one finds one's purpose, motivation always drops off after some time and we burn out or become depressed. 


Purpose and soul-satisfaction

Discover and follow the purpose of your life. The purpose always leads us on the path of humanity. When the soul feels satisfied, you feel motivated to do even everything else in life.


If you have reached a place of peace and joy in your every thought, emotion, word, and action, then you have reached a place from where you can guide and teach others. In this place, there is never any doubt in your mind. There is no sorrow in your heart and never any despair. In this place, you harbour no opinions or false beliefs, not even for a moment; there is no hate or prejudice, no anger or envy, only unconditional love, forgiveness, and gentleness.  


Until all of this is unconditionally true, you have not reached this place, and therefore, it is not yet your place to guide and teach others. Only by finding and living your own peace and joy can you show others how to find it in themselves. Enter the tranquillity of your inner resting place; the seat of your soul, where your purpose resides as it is who you are. The centre of your being is pure light. Embrace healing for your body, mind, and spirit every day. No longer allow negative thoughts or feelings to drain you of your energy. Remove your Self from anything that disturbs your peace.


Purpose and the real you

Don’t do anything to prove yourself, but do everything to improve yourself. Real success is not about proving your worth to others; it’s about learning, improving, and gaining from your experiences to become a better version of your Self: The real you.


Some people define success by proving themselves to be superior to others. Their real aim is to satisfy their ego rather than achieve genuine success. When you do something to brag, you lose sight of your real goal in life and are left with nothing but your ego. Those who aim for true success never worry about what others think of them because they want to dedicate their time and efforts to self-improvement. That is how you serve the world.


Take time to improve yourself, because only by becoming a better version of your past self can you make your present and future successful. That is how you guide and help others.


Purpose and letting go

All of your sorrows, your anxieties, and your fears are your own. You can choose to cling to them, or you can let them go, Either way, it is your  choice, not anyone else's. No one else can make you cling; no one else can make you let go. No one else can cling for you; no one else can let go for you. These choices are yours to make, and any changes you want to make can only ever be made by you.  


Only when you recognise your true Self, can you be said to be in your right mind. Give up all selfish thoughts, and peace will be yours.


Purpose and healing

Let healing energy flow through your body. Nature will heal you. Be patient. It will happen.


The healing energy of the Universe, life, and recovery surrounds us. It is available, waiting for us to draw on it, waiting for us to draw it in. It's waiting in our connections, on the words of a whispered prayer, in a gentle touch, a positive word, a positive thought. Healing energy is in the sun, the wind, and the rain; in all that is good.


Let healing energy come. Attract it. Accept it. Let it soak in. Breathe in the golden light. Exhale. Let go of fear, anger, hurt, and doubt. Let healing energy flow to you, through you, and back out to others.


It is yours for the asking, for the believing.


Purpose and eternity

In the Bible in John 17:3 it says “And this is life eternal, that they may know Thee.” It is the flow of life eternal through spirit, mind, and body that cleanses, heals, restores, and renews. Seek conscious contact with God more and more each day. Make God an abiding presence during the day. Be conscious of His spirit helping you. All that is done without God’s spirit is passing. All that is done with God’s spirit is life eternal.


Detecting your purpose

You are meant to be here. And on-one has the authority to tell you otherwise. You have a calling - a purpose. Can you hear it yet? It’s the quiet voice. You know, the one that you hear, but choose to ignore, because of that brash egocentric voice that is so loud and full of fear. 


As Viktor Frankl said “You don’t create your mission in life - you detect it.”


You don’t need to take a pilgrimage to a far-off place to find your purpose: You simply need to become more present to where you are. 


Your purpose is bigger than your ego. Your ego will never see the golden thread that runs through your entire life as your purpose. Your purpose is larger than you. It is part of a bigger picture. That’s why your ego doesn’t like it! You are ultimately part of a cosmic-sized love. You just don’t see it yet. 



Maya Angelou wrote “My mission in life is not simply to survive, but to thrive, and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humour, and some style.” It’s an epic journey from looking for your purpose to living it. Isn’t it time to express your soul’s immensity? To step into your higher Self. 


Purpose and the 'Golden thread'

The spiritual Master and psychiatrist Carl Jung wrote "Man can meet the demands of outer necessity in an ideal way only if he is adapted to his own inner world, that is if he is in harmony with himself." My aim is to help people find rest in the sanctuary of their soul, learn to recognise their true voice, and follow the golden thread of wisdom, meaning, and purpose in their life.


Viktor Frankl was a Holocaust survivor who spent three years in Auschwitz and other concentration camps between 1942 and 1945. His first wife, Tilly Grosser, and his mother, father, and brother were all murdered in the camps. In 'Man's Search for Meaning, Frankl shared a "fragment" - as he called it - of his experiences living in that hell. To survive those three terrible years, he found it was "Essential to keep practicing the art of living" even in the face of death. He sought inspiration from the Psalms. He repeated daily this line from Psalm 118 "I called to the Lord from my narrow prison, and He answered me in the freedom of space."


During his time at Auschwitz, Frankl found a "Living question" that helped him survive the horrors of the camps and later inspired his life's work: "The question which beset me was, 'Has all this suffering, this dying around us, a meaning?'"


Frankl deduced that if the answer was no, then that must mean survival had no meaning either. This didn't feel true to Frankl. He recognised that no was the voice of despair, which he described as "Suffering without meaning." Frankl said yes to his life, and a deeper meaning and purpose were revealed to him.


Viktor Frankl was the founder of logotherapy, heralded as the third Viennese school of psychotherapy, after those of Sigmund Freud and Alfred Adler. "According to logotherapy, this striving to find a meaning in one's life is the primary motivational force in man," wrote Victor Frankl.' Logotherapy's main aim is to help you live a meaning-centred life. The will to meaning, named by Frankl, is more than just a secondary rationalisation to the will to pleasure (Freud's theory) and the will to power (Adler's theory). The will to meaning comes first.


Nine months after Viktor Frankl was liberated from the Nazi concentration camps, he gave a short series of lectures called "Yes to Life in Spite of Everything" at an adult education college in the Ottakring district of Vienna. He taught that your will to meaning is a sacred YES that connects you with a higher purpose that is far more meaningful than the pursuit of power and superiority over others. The will to meaning also engages a Higher Power that can help you overcome the wounding and suffering you experience on your path.


Your purpose and will to meaning activates the God-seed in you and enables you to realise your soul's immensity. Viktor Frankl said it this way: "Logotherapy sees the human patient in all his humanness. I step up to the core of the patient's being. And that is a being in search of meaning, a being that is transcending himself, a being capable of acting in love for others." Freddie Frankl said (nephew of Viktor) to achieve greater meaning and purpose in life you need to “suffer well, love well and work well.”


Purpose and the meaning of love

If you learn to suffer well, you can learn from your suffering, you can grow through it, and ultimately, you are liberated from it. Your wounds contain your wisdom and your higher purpose. You can use your suffering to experience a greater connection with life, to enjoy deeper and more meaningful relationships, and to continue to step into your soul's immensity. How is this even possible? It is not possible without love.


Viktor Frankl recognised love as a Higher Power that lives in the "innermost core" of your being. He taught that when you meet suffering with enough love, you can find a meaning for it that helps you to survive and grow. Love has the power to give meaning to your life and it can use your suffering for a higher purpose. Of course, it's impossible to do this on your own. We all need help, and we are here to play a part in each other's healing and liberation. Loving ourselves and each other is our salvation and our shared purpose.


The greatest sign of love is when someone creates an environment around you that allows you time and the resources to find your true Self.


Alan Watts and the purpose of God, with After Skool


The purpose and meaning of work

Viktor Frankl observed that "Ever more people today have the means to live but no meaning to live for." Why do we go to work?


What is the real meaning of work? Do we work simply to earn money and acquire wealth, or is there a higher purpose to it? In the Athlete Stage and Warrior Stage of Carl Jung's work, we mainly use work to win medals, climb a ladder, earn a promotion, and rise to the top, but it's never enough. You may end up burying yourself in your work in an effort to avoid your suffering and to compensate for the lack of love in your life.


Freddie Frankl said "The purpose of life is to work out what the real work of your life is." Your real work is far greater than learning a trade, having a job, pursuing a career, getting published, being the boss, or owning your business. Yes, it may include some of that, but beyond that, the real work of your life is more about who you are, what you stand for, how you meet your suffering, and how you choose to express your love.


George Alexiou wrote “You and your purpose in life are the same thing. Your purpose is to be you.”

How to find meaning in a meaningless world, with After Skool


Purpose and suffering

Your suffering can define you, or you can define it. I’m choosing to find wisdom in life’s many painful experiences. Viktor Frankl thought, “If there is a meaning in life at all, then there must be a meaning in suffering. Suffering is an ineradicable part of life, even as fate and death. Without suffering and death, human life cannot be complete.”


The human will to find meaning changes everything: But it requires a mental shift. Suffering need not be a meaningless void: Focus on the lessons, the many reasons to be hopeful, grateful, and keep going. I look for reasons why life is happening for me instead of against me. If I can’t change my fate as a human, I can respond differently. Resisting reality only prolongs suffering.


Dan Millman wrote “Pain is a relatively objective, physical phenomenon; suffering is our psychological resistance to what happens. Events may create physical pain, but they do not in themselves create suffering. Resistance creates suffering. Stress happens when your mind resists what is. The only problem in your life is your mind’s resistance to life as it unfolds.”


For many people, even tiny annoyances turn into torture. They’ve built walls to keep out hurt, but they also end up shutting out joy. Pain is all around us, but the world is also full of people who have overcome it. As Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said, the most beautiful people have known struggle, but they have also found their way out.


Accept pain for what it is: A passing cloud. It’s how you move through the emotional waves rather than getting stuck under them. I don’t see myself as a victim of suffering anymore. I’m taking control of the stories I tell myself about loss and pain.


Ruminating on the pain from our past or fearing the future only intensifies suffering in the present. You can experience all of life’s emotions without getting overwhelmed by them.

That’s how you stay sane.


If you build your world out of fear of suffering, you forget to live, love and laugh in the face of the inevitable. Improve your relationship with suffering. The greatest suffering is not the pain you avoid but the life you miss.


The complete human experience is not without pain but you don’t have to defined by it. “I have been bent and broken, but - I hope - into a better shape,” said Charles Dickens. If you fear pain you are preparing yourself to suffer twice; before the suffering happens and when it happens.


You can avoid that with a simple mindset shift. Open yourself to all of life, even the scary parts. It’s the only way to truly live. Find meaning in the scars. That’s where the real strength lies - not in avoiding life but in living it fully, in spite of our loss, struggle, or grief. As Rumi wrote "The wound is the place where the light enters you.”


In Proverbs 19:21 it states "Many are the plans in a person's heart, but it is Lord's purpose that prevails."


Finding your why

Please take the time to watch this video on finding your why by the legend (someone who brings clarity to otherwise complex concepts) that is Simon Sinek:


Find your why by Simon Sinek


Conclusion

Keep in mind the goal you are striving for, the good life you are trying to attain. Do not let little things divert you from the path. Do not be overcome by the small trials and distractions of each day. Try to see the purpose and plan to which all is leading. Imagine if when climbing a mountain, you keep your eyes on each stony or difficult place, how weary is your climb. But if you think of each step as leading to the summit of achievement from which a glorious landscape will open out before you, then your climb will be endurable and you will achieve your goal with bells on. Every struggle in your life has shaped you into the person you are today. Be thankful for the hard times, they can only make you stronger...


Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you: Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.


George Bernard Shaw wrote that “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” Are you ready to change your mind?


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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