Your Life Has Crashed: What Now? The 7 Steps To The Life of Your Dreams
- Olly Alexander
- Jun 2, 2022
- 23 min read
Updated: Aug 21
INTRODUCTION
Welcome to the seventh blog post in my series on Transformative Life Coaching (TLC) and everything related to personal development and enlightenment. "Your Life Has Crashed: What now? The 7 Steps to a Life of Your Dreams." If this resonates, read on...
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Your Life Has Crashed: What now? The 7 Steps to a Life of Your dreams
Tragedy and comedy, sad and happy. We can move from depressed to joyous using the 7 steps I describe below
Table of Contents |
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2. Psychological support |
3. Recovery |
4. Inner child work and embodiment of your self |
5. Coaching |
6. Enlightenment |
7. The benefits of Enlightenment |
1. Your life has crashed: What now?
Rock bottom
You have hit rock bottom, and you know it. You can't see a way forward. You are numb, dissociated, as it's all too much emotion to bear, or maybe so anxious that you can't get down off the ceiling. You may feel exhausted: You just want to sleep - for weeks. You can't do anything. I know how you feel. I am here. I see you and hear you. I have been there. It's not the end. It's a new beginning: A rebirth. You had to consciously be reborn you see. Life will not just be good again, you will be transformed. You just can't see it yet.
What now?
Please take time to read this article. Please pass it on to anyone who you think may need it. It is the result of lived experience, reading over 250 books about psychology, recovery, philosophy, personal growth, and Enlightenment for over two years, and connecting with numerous therapists, teachers, mentors, and coaches who guided me to find my purpose, change my life, and devote my self to service of others, YOU. Dealing with your childhood trauma and its consequences needs a multifaceted approach:
Psychological support and trauma treatment
Recovery programmes such as the 12 steps which give people a ‘programme for living’ that they never received as children, fellowship, and introduces them to a spiritual approach (please don't stop reading, I am absolutely NOT talking about religion)
Transformation to discover your true Self, your inner adult, and become fully awakened
First steps
You will likely need all of the 7 steps that I outline, one step at a time, and one day at a time. You will move from a life driven by ego-centric terror, desolation, depression, and despair, to one of love, compassion, joy, peace, wisdom, wellbeing, fulfilment, limitless possibility, and abundance in all its forms.
2. Psychological support
Help
It's ok to ask for help. You have never 'needed' it: That was the problem. You went it alone, thinking that you could just 'push on'. It wasn't sustainable, even though you felt invulnerable. It wasn't a question of if you were going to crash, but when. You built the "Wrong Tower" you see. You just can't see it yet. Bear with me, you will.
Psychiatric help
Are you overwhelmed with emotion, pain, grief over loss, fear, or the symptoms of anxiety and depression? Reach out for psychiatric help. You can't recover and grow until you have control of these overbearing symptoms.
Group work
The solution is connection. This will be through deep connection with those that you love, through fellowship, and by moving from ego to compassion - from self to others.
Trauma is a disease like any other and is treatable with specialised psychotherapy such as World Health Organisation (WHO) and NICE approved and proven Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprogramming (EMDR) or somatic experiencing. These sessions are evidence based and yet will change you like magic! I have had 8 sessions of EMDR for childhood trauma, and my nightmares have vanished. It has radically changed my beliefs about my self. I explain how childhood trauma is the basis of most mental health problems, and notably addiction, in my blog post:
3. Recovery
What is recovery?
Recovery means finding your true Self: Literally recovering your true identity. Recovery = we recover the you that you were meant to be. It is the solution to the problem of needing external validation that we all crave in the 21st century (workaholism, shopping addiction, internet addiction, social media addiction, sex and love addiction) or numbing (gambling, alcohol or substance abuse) to ease the pain of emotions that are buried alive inside you from unresolved childhood trauma. Emotions are never buried dead. Recovery is a cradle for transformation after turmoil.
12 step work
Recovery programmes allow us to feel emotion again, process it, surrender it, and use our new Selves, free from ego, to serve others. Don’t look down on anyone unless you are going to pick them up. 12 step programmes are full of pithy observations, aphorisms, which contain general truths about how to BE in life. That is because they are timeless Truths!
The fellowship loves you until you love your Self
Hurt people hurt people; Healed people heal people; Loved people love people; Transformed people transform people; Enlightened people enlighten people
God gives his strongest soldiers the toughest battles. We are never given more than we can handle; I feel that this should be that our Higher Power sends us challenges to forge us in the fire
If in doubt, recovery, recovery, recovery
There is no growth without adversity
Sickness attracts sickness; Health attracts health
Recovery is emotional potty training - the steps teach you how to grow up, from the ego of 'King Baby' to the adult assertive fearless, intuitive you. They provide you with the unconditional love (from your awakened Self) that you never had
To recover and become well you need a spiritual awakening - this means ultimately finding your Self - your Higher power is within - the Kingdom of God is within you
The only meeting you are late for is your first meeting
A spiritually sick or asleep person is an egocentric person with an inferiority complex
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result
Recovery is as spiritual society
How do you treat an illness where the first symptom is denial?
Addiction is cunning, baffling and powerful
Addiction gives you the wings to fly then it takes away the sky - it enables you then disables you - it does things for you then does things to you
Sobriety without action is fantasy: Thought without action is (largely) useless; action without thought is risky, or dangerous; Principles without practice is useless; practice without principles is dangerous
If you survive the dragon, you don’t go back to fetch your sword
You will have what you need not what you want
You are as sick as your secrets - be open, vulnerable, and rigorously honest
Trying to control the world outside of us is like trying to control a tidal wave
Sanity comes from the Latin word sanitās - which means healthy
Peace and serenity is proportionate to the degree of surrender
Get well then everything will fall into place
Turn yourself over to will of God and authenticity. Forget the rest. Drop the 'rock'
Ego - the bigger the head the bigger the target
Addiction doesn’t disappear - recovery just gets bigger: We are not rewired - our brains overlay the correct wiring, like carving a new path in the meadow - the old path is always there but it fades to the point of needing a quantum shift to take it again
Addiction is like taking a swim in a river and then getting swept away by the current
Man imposes, God disposes
"How do you make God laugh? Tell him your plans"
Let go, let God
A spiritual life is not the same as a religious life - it means finding your Self
Our Higher Power is our conscience. You will now intuitively know the right thing to do
If you become sicker you become a seeker: You must break down to break through
You can find a problem for every solution or a solution to every problem - the 12 steps allows you to stay in the latter
Addiction is giving up everything for one thing, recovery is giving up one thing for everything
It’s impossible to get a positive outcome with a negative attitude
Open up, ask for help and serve others
Service is love in action
The steps turn you into a better human being who does service for others in all areas of their life
Steps is not for people who believe in God or don’t believe on God - it’s for people who think they are God
No God, no peace. Know God, know peace
The steps takes you from being restless, irritable and discontented to happy, joyous and free
FEAR - False Evidence Appearing Real; Face Everything And Rise
FAIL - First Attempt In Learning
The -ISM in addiction is Internal Spiritual Malady or In Search of More or I self Me
Where you are is exactly where you are meant to be
If you are living this programme fully you will live the principles in all your affairs
Your Higher Power doesn’t give you what you want, he gives you what you need
The 12 step program can be summarised in 6 words!: “Trust God, Clean house, help others.”
An addict on their own is behind enemy lines
The key to recovery is connection -
I’ll = ill
We’ll = well
A programme for living
We are not born with a programme for living. We are supposed to acquire this by modelling our parent's behaviour. But what if you had an unvalidated childhood without unconditional love? This is childhood trauma. Trauma is what we experience alone. Most of us have shame-based families. If it's hysterical it's historical. So many of us were brought up without knowing how we should be, and we don't even know it: The damage is already done at a preverbal age and continues through our childhood.
Not many people have a design for living and most people have unresolved trauma issues. 12 step programmes, transformation, and coaching can all work together to provide you with how to BE in life. This state of BEing means that you can act intuitively. If you are not BEing a noun, you cannot act as a verb! The 12 steps is a simple programme for complicated people. It empowers you to deal with challenges and accept life on life’s terms. It gives you the tools for living life. There is a tool for every nut. NUTS - is Not Using The Steps
"The willingness to grow is the essence of all spiritual development." Bill Wilson, founder of 12 step programmes
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself” (Rumi).
4. Inner child work and embodiment of your self
What is inner child work?
The psychologist Carl Jung (1875-1961) is most commonly considered the first to have coined the term “inner child.” The divine child archetype is one among many defined by Jung, and is an inborn unconscious driver of our behaviour. The inner child archetype is akin to an unconscious subpersonality that consists of what a person learned and experienced in the earliest years of their life. This inner child personality is subordinate to the conscious mind, yet influences this mind. The influence manifests negatively if the inner child is traumatised, wounded or anxious. The role of Jungian psychotherapy is to heal this inner child. Through a process of conscious “reparenting”, psychotherapists assist their patients in recognising the inner child’s trauma and pain. The process of “reparenting” was first introduced by Dr. Lucia Capacchione in the 1970s through her art therapy. By compassionately working with this inner child to teach them new patterns of behaviour, the adult becomes free from the compulsion to act upon the whims of the unruly, subconscious child. We need to meet the needs of the child within us, not put them in a cage.
Roberto Assagioli (1888-1974), founder of the term psychosynthesis, the study of both personality and soul, inferred that while healing childhood trauma was essential to the healthy development of the ego, human growth was equally dependent on spiritual experience, and the goal of “Self-realisation.” This is why recovery and Transformative Life Coaching (TLC) (both essentially based on finding one's true Self) are essential elements in the 7 steps that I describe in this article to finding joy. Assagioli’s concept of self-actualisation was later made famous by its place at the top of Abraham Maslow’s 'Hierarchy of Needs:
Maslow’s theory was that once humans have satisfied their basic needs of food, water, and shelter, the actualisation of their full potential can begin to take place
These 19th-century psychotherapists would have agreed that “self-actualisation,” the realisation of our full potentiality, also known as Enlightenment, cannot be arrived at unless and until we make peace with the child within us and their needs. Jung’s archetypes are founded upon the idea that we do not come into this world as a blank slate. This concept is echoed in eastern philosophies, which influenced Jung, including his advice to authors of the Big Book, the 'Bible' of recovery (please forgive my mixing of religious reference - I mean Bible in the sense of the 'go to' definitive work), which delineates the 12 steps. According to the Laws of Karma, the unfulfilled desires of our past life compel our rebirth in the present. This cycle also unfolds from moment to moment, as the unmet needs we are unaware of drive our present-moment actions.
The traumatised inner child’s desire is to heal. Peter A. Levine said that “Trauma is not what happens to us. But what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.” The child within us that remains in pain, fear, anger or rage, guilt or shame, either retreats from or lashes out at the world around them, unable to cope with their intense emotions. It may be firmly rooted in black and white thinking and solid beliefs as a means of protecting themselves from the outside world. It needs guidance and loving-kindness from their adult Self so it can learn to trust and feel whole. Until the inner child is healed, our past troubles will continue to reveal themselves. Karma says we are fated to repeat the cycle until we consciously break it. While Jung may have referred to the “Hidden subconscious forces” of the inner child, eastern philosophers note the seeds of Karma. These seeds are stored in our subconscious, and until we replace them by planting positive seeds or liberate them through self-awareness, they will continue to grow and ripen into negative outcomes. The good news is, just like the seeds of Karma, the hidden forces of the inner child archetype can be redeemed. We can plant seeds for positive Karma, and we can benefit from the positive characteristics of a healed inner child.
The redeemed inner child is the emancipated child, freed by you as the parent. A healthy and healed inner child is able to remain in the present moment, no longer clings to black and white beliefs and feels comfortable letting things go. The child within us becomes curious, playful, and accepts a sense of humour in all things. The Buddhist spiritual leader Thich Nhat Hanh has said“The cry we hear from deep in our hearts comes from the wounded child within.” It’s our life’s work to stop, notice, and listen to this child. We cannot reach our destiny without healing the inner child’s pain and transforming their sadness, fear or anger. In his 2010 book, 'Reconciliation: Healing The Inner Child', Thich Nhat Hanh suggests using mindfulness to listen with compassion to our inner child. We can strengthen our mind consciousness through meditation and by doing even the simplest daily activities with awareness. As mindfulness increases, we can better hear the call of the child inside us. Noticing and listening is the first step in the process of reconciliation. Once we recognise the child, Thich Nhat Hanh reminds us to embrace them, to take care of them, and to compassionately reparent them. Through its call to us, the inner child is asking us to help it heal. Like all children, this child has within it the potential to be healed. The call of the inner child is the call of our true nature, it asks us to listen, to slow down, and to treat our innermost being with compassion and loving-kindness. Ultimately, the call comes from a part of us deep within that is already whole, Enlightened and divine. You can try this meditation to connect with your inner child right now (see that section on 'What is embodiment?' below) . The divine child, the healed child inside us, is an archetype that’s frequently enmeshed with descriptions of Enlightened BEings. This is the child your meditation and yoga teacher wants you to invite to the forefront. This is the child that comes out to play once the reconciliation and healing process is complete. While the traumatised inner child is imbued with mental afflictions as our ego, the Enlightened inner child is joyful, empathetic, curious, and playful. The healed inner child is our source of limitless healthy energy and creativity. By reparenting our inner child we keep them safe, healthy, and whole. We become one - whole, acting with integrity. Reparenting the inner child focuses on making sure it feels the value, love, and protection it lacked during childhood. By working with your inner child, you can isolate and integrate a very essential part of your being. Because the inner child holds enormous power over our thoughts, decisions, and relationships, it is important to introduce it to new approaches that help lessen unruly reactions and promote reflective responses.
Spiritual texts from all Faiths describe the childlike features of those fully connected to the divine. In Mark 10:15 the Bible says "Truly I tell you, anyone who will not receive the Kingdom of God like a little child will never enter it.” Without the humility, teachability, and Faith of a child, one will be unable to connect to one’s God. One must follow the teachings as a child follows a parent. The Hindu Swami Amar Jyoti describes “The great souls” as like innocent children, spontaneous, with simplicity and purity of heart. He goes on to say higher BEings appear childlike because they are unassuming, free and unattached to a static definition of “self.” The Dalai Lama is often referred to as child-like, “Manifest Buddhism in his own nature – child-like, joyful, and empathetic.” Vancouver’s Dalai Lama Center emphasises a child’s ability to see themselves as limitless, to dream big and focus on their potential and the possibilities of what they can do, as the desirable qualities of a divine BEing. Children are naturally curious and open to learning, they find joy in exploration without attachment to outcome, they ask for help when they need it, and imagine they have the potential to be really good at something.
Carl Jung famously said "The first half of life is devoted to forming a healthy ego, the second half is going inward and letting go of it.” Once we come to terms with a healthy ego by making friends with the child inside us, it’s time to allow the enlightened qualities of this child to teach us to let go.
When asked to get in touch with our inner child, we may at first find someone scared, hiding, angry, or lashing out. Through conscious connection and compassionate self-parenting, we allow this inner child to shine forth with all their innate wonder, curiosity, awe and potential. It is no wonder that spiritual leader Emmet Fox, author of Sermon on The mount, (1886–1951) called it the "wonder child." True adulthood and maturity arises when we have fully acknowledged, accepted, and taken responsibility for our inner child, through loving and compassionate self-parenting.
What is embodiment?
Embodiment is developed in a meditative state, within somatic psychology, through mindfulness practices that are inclusive of body awareness, inviting you to reconnect to your sensations as part of the healing process. You can communicate aloud with your inner child.
In this exercise, you can either sit or stand in front of a mirror or sit comfortably without one. If using a mirror, directly speak with your reflection; asking questions and answering them freely without restraint. If you feel strained or upset, comfort your reflection. Speak words you would want to hear from someone you love. Speak words you never heard as a child but desperately needed to hear. Say exactly what your inner child needs to hear right now. Remember, you are reparenting your inner child. Soothe its spirit, so that yours can also find some kind of peace and resolve your inner conflicts. Doing this in the context of meditation allows you to further communicate and connect with your inner child. With time, effort and continued guidance, reparenting your inner child can open up new doors in your healing journey. Years of life have passed, yet your inner child still eagerly awaits you to wrap it in the most loving embrace it has ever felt. An embrace that you have the power to create and sustain. A hug that you can channel through your connection with the divine in you. It’s time to reintroduce yourself to the child within. Your healing starts now. You can alternately take the role of parent (the assertive adult in you) or your inner child, reassure, ask questions, forgive, show compassion. This will set you both free to integrate together as one. The safe adult in you, and the joyful, curious, child with limitless energy and creativity. You become very powerful, safe, and abundant. Thus you become 'energetic serenity' - a nuclear reactor of energy that can power the national grid, not explode and destroy, as the adult is keeping you both safe. It's your superpower.
As an adult you are completely safe - you fill your body with your adult, always present. The inner child can show up. Imagine sending your inner child into the adult world unaccompanied - that is what you have done until now. Now, through reparenting and embodiment practices, your inner child will always feel safe and unconditionally loved by you. You don't need anything outside of you. The world is full of spiritually sick terrified inner children showing up as adults. What an amazing place the world would be if we all showed up as adults. Your adult will always be there. You have healed your inner child wounds.
The problem is that you were parented by your parent's wounded inner child as they did not show up as adults. Is it possible for a child to sin? No, it's not possible. Your inner child didn't receive what he needed to protect him, so he developed coping mechanisms to protect himself. This desperate need for external validation gets louder and louder until an epiphany takes place, where you are reborn as an adult. Can you go through adult life without making mistakes? No, of course not. But we must learn from them, have self-compassion, and never judge. You now have an opportunity for Grace and expansion. This is a rebirth, not an ending. By doing the inner work (through action and engagement as described in the 12 steps) to transform your character, you will be touched by Grace - it will feel as if you are gently touched lightly by a feather. Forgiveness as Grace lands lightly on you, yet powerfully. You are so forgivable. Your own accountability, your intuitively-inspired actions, to undergo transformation, creates the Grace. As an adult you know intuitively what to do, in line with your core values. You have sat with pain, fear and toxic shame, you are reparenting your shadow (the ostracised elements of your inner child), that makes you so safe, that it would require a quantum leap to reverse this process. Most people don't have the wisdom to understand this, but it doesn't matter.
Our Shadow Self is not an evil-twin personality that we have to master. Our undesirable behaviours aren’t defects or soul blight, they’re a cry for attention - for help to heal our wounded selves. Any manipulativeness, arrogance, hostility, or addiction: These aren’t inner fractures. They’re expressions of wounds that have not yet healed. Those wounds get hidden in the shadows of our consciousness. Our Shadow Self is our neglected inner child. And our greatest opportunity for building strength comes from the work of healing our woundedness. The shadow is where our pain hides, waiting for the light of our attention. It lies beneath the distractions of workaholism, comparison and bravado. It’s the stuff in the basement of our psyches that we’re not cleaning up.
We avoid our Shadow by…
Overachieving - spiritual bypassing under the guise of self-improvement. We can’t tend to our pain if we’re shellacking it with positivity.
Overworking to stay distracted from our perceived brokenness. If I just keep working hard, I’ll get what I want. I will be so industrious and devoted and good, that God will deliver me… because that’s how Karma works, yeah? Nope.
Overconsumption and addictive habits - from using mood-altering substances to buying stuff we don’t really need in order to feel and “look” better… temporarily.
Hanging out in superficial relationships to avoid being truly seen-felt-head and intimate.
Your Shadow Self is waiting for the light of your attention - your love. You have to have compassion for yourself. It's a human survival mechanism to avoid our wounds in order to keep carrying on. You’ve got stuff to do: A career to build, people to care for, babies to raise. These are healthy reasons to delay sorting out your life. Yet we need to deal with it. You have the strength. It might not be easy, but it will be worth it. Shadow work hurts before it brings relief. It might cost you a lot in therapy. You might have to take some time off work. You will probably have to have some uncomfortable conversations. But - you’re going to get there - to feel free, for everything to become clear, and to become sovereign in your life. By the time in your life that you’re ready to deal with your emotional wounds, you’ve likely built some support systems. An ecosystem of friends, teammates, and introspective tools that will help weather you through. You’ve been building up your outer strength so you can take the inward journey. You’re not alone.
The sense of isolation is part of being in the dark. But there are an infinite amount of people who’ve traversed the same path and come out on the other side. There is a pattern to the descent, and that means that the rising is also inevitable. Draw on the stories of others. They know.
Remember that “Learning to love my most wounded self was my ultimate restoration.” Tell your inner child: "I see you. I see your fear, shame, terror… and I’m not judging you anymore. I’m going to embrace you. In fact, I’m going to listen to everything you need to say. I know I’ve neglected you. I’ve overworked when you needed rest. I know it might be hard to trust me, but you can trust me now because I’m here to do the work. I’m going to take care of you." Self-compassion is the most powerful light source on the inner shadow. Shine it on the full spectrum of your pain (from the ancient to the recent) and keep loving what you find in the dark. This is good parenting for your soul.
Keep looking, keep listening, keep loving your wounds, and your radiance - your inherent, never-leaving, second nature radiance will astound you.
This is the shadow work:
I used to berate my Shadow Self (my wounded inner child) for doing/being/acting…
But now I know that she-he-they were trying to tell me to heal…
My Shadow Self wants me to know…
How she-he-they want to feel…
Encouragement/internal validation/comfort my woundedness needs to hear…
How I commit to caring for my inner child…
Learning to love my most wounded self was my ultimate restoration. When times are tough, silence your inner critic, and love your Self more. Dive inside and love your self unconditionally.
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SUMMARY
What you are feeling is historical. Benjamin Fry says in his book "The Invisible Lion" that our responses are appropriate, but that they are in response to a threat that no longer exists. Dealing with your childhood trauma and its consequences needs a multifaceted approach:
Psychological support and trauma treatment
Recovery programmes such as the 12 steps which give people a ‘programme for living’ that they never received as children, fellowship, and introduces them to a spiritual approach
Transformation to discover your true Self, your inner adult and become fully awakened
Namaste.
Olly
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