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Let Go and Find Flow

Updated: Jan 27

Negative energy from past experiences and the plethora of negative people who populate this dysfunctional Dystopian drama-seeking world hold us back. Just because they are in a negative place, you needn’t visit them there. Maybe it’s a grudge or resentment of theirs that they can’t seem to shake because they are unwilling to do the difficult but necessary inner work, a worry that steals you of the present, or the fear of what tomorrow might bring, which is a bizarre concept when you think about it: We are never in tomorrow.


Alan Watts wrote "When we attempt to exercise power or control over someone else, we cannot avoid giving that person the very same power or control over us.”


Ships don’t sink because of the water around them; ships sink because of the water that gets in them. Don’t let what’s happening around you get inside you and weigh you down.


Naval was right, “You don’t want to be at peace from everything, you want to be at peace with everything.”


Whatever it is, it weighs you down, robs your joy, and keeps you from living your highest life.


The good news is, letting go changes everything - you unburden yourself, awaken your full Higher Self and step into a lighter, free space of presence and unconditional love. You step into abundance, joy, love, and success. Have Faith in your Self: Now relax and just let it happen. The Universe has plans for you. Step into flow: Let go and find flow. Let's dive into the flow...



When you’re burdened by negativity, you make poor decisions, act impulsively, reacting instead of responding, and push people away. But when you let go, you see things with fresh eyes: Your perspective changes...


You approach problems with a better mindset, connect with others authentically, and radiate a calmness that uplifts everyone around you. Your eyes light up. You are on the path.


This is the place of miracles...


Viktor Frankl wrote “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.” You can let go.


Let go to find flow. That’s the promise of Lao Tzu, Alan Watts, and Thich Nhat Hanh - three wise minds, separated by centuries, yet united in their message of timeless Truth, letting go and truly living. Lao Tzu, the ancient Chinese philosopher and author of the 'Tao Te Ching', believed in the power of wu wei - effortless action.


He argued that clinging to desires and expectations creates resistance, making life heavier and harder. His writings urged us to flow with the natural order of things, to let go of control and embrace what is. Control is insanity. Control is ego - the small, false you who you love to cling to.


“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like,” says Tzu. This is similar to the Stoic philosophy of Amor Fati - 'Love your fate'. Long ago, the Swiss psychiatrist and psychologist Carl Jung, the godfather of diving deep into the psyche, contended that “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size. ''


One major form of resistance to letting go is to blame other people or situations: This is very similar to denial, as this coping technique not only causes a sense of reality where one never grows up or owns up to their own actions but also holds onto a lot of anger and resentment towards other people. We all are responsible for our actions and any other belief placing responsibility on others will only bring you a life of disappointment and negative emotions as it is not realistic at all and is not how life really works: This psychological phenomenon was termed 'projection' by Carl Jung.


Lao Tzu suggests loosening your grip on the past to enjoy life completely. Let go of the need to control every outcome, and life becomes a smoother, more joyful journey. I love the metaphor of life and the Universe being a river - you can't fight the current forever or change it's course, but you can lie back and flow in the direction it is taking you.


“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be,” Tzu said.



Watts urged us to become aware of our thoughts, to see them as passing clouds (or floating leaves in the river metaphor) rather than solid truths. He encouraged us to let go of the constant internal chatter and fully experience the present, the here and now.


Like Tzu, Watts also said, “Waking up to who you are requires letting go of who you imagine your Self to be.”


Just like cleaning or decluttering creates space and mental clarity, letting go of mental baggage allows you to see the world with fresh eyes, clarity, and appreciate the beauty of the now.


Thich Nhat Hanh, the Vietnamese Zen Buddhist monk and peace activist, offered practical tools for cultivating inner peace and letting go. He taught that bringing your complete Higher Self to the present is a way to train your attention and detach from negative thoughts and emotions.


Thich Nhat Hanh wrote “When we give ourselves the chance to let go of all our tension, the body’s natural capacity to heal itself can begin to work.”


Imagine sitting on a riverbank, watching leaves float by. Nhat Hanh’s mindful living practice is like that. You observe your thoughts and feelings without judgement, letting them go like leaves carried away by the flow of the current.


With practice, you become less attached to negativity and more able to savour the present moment.


Awaken your Higher Self

Imagine yourself finally letting go of that old resentment. You feel a weight lift, a lightness in your step. Or imagine you are no longer consumed by tomorrow’s worries. You can focus on what truly matters - the present moment, the people you love unconditionally, the beauty that surrounds you. Imagine never again thinking of those people or events that marred your life due to their tragic, negative nature.


If are holding on to the actions of others, you’re not going to really awaken to find inner peace.


You have to let go. It’s hard, but it works.


You’re a river, always flowing. You are not meant to be stuck on rocks, mental chatter, and anxieties.


Let go of the resistance.


The river doesn’t fight the rocks; it flows around them.


Flow like water.


You can’t stop the river’s flow, and you can’t stop your essential nature. Don’t try to dam the river. Let it flow freely. The more you resist, the more you suffer.


No matter what, keep flowing.


You don’t have to fight the current, exhaust yourself, and achieve little. Instead, step back, observe the flow, and trust that the Universe will take its course. Let go of the frantic busyness and find peace in the stillness.


We see struggle everywhere because we chase after too much. I’m not saying abandon your goals but detach from clinging to outcomes. Let go of the need to control, manipulate, and force things. Instead, flow with the natural order of things.


You can’t control what happens outside of you but can control how you respond. Take the view from above. Immerse yourself in the daily process of doing your best, and the outcome will take care of itself.


Now, that’s an expectation weight lifted off your shoulders.


Most people spend too much time lost in thought, replaying the past, fretting about the future, and missing the present moment.


The should-haves and could-haves are draining their present peace.


Letting go isn’t about becoming passive. It’s about becoming intentional. You choose what to hold onto and what to release. You decide what to focus on: The things that matter most, the present experience and things you can control.


You can’t control everything. People let you down despite your best efforts at helping them. But you can control how you react. You can choose to let go of anger, blame, drama, conflict, frustration, and resentment: They are so banal and basic. You can choose to see the good, find peace, forgive, forget, and move on. Don't give them another second of your time or thought.


Letting go isn’t easy. It’s a practice, a daily commitment.


But with each breath and moment of intentional living, you get rid of the burdens you carry. You create space for joy, peace, and a life that flows freely, like a river around a rock.


You’re here, now, breathing. And in this moment, you are free.


Free to choose. Free to let go. Free to live. Free to love those who matter to you. Free to ignore those who don't matter at all.


“We cannot change anything unless we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. I am the oppressor of the person I condemn, not his friend and fellow-sufferer. I do not in the least mean to say that we must never pass judgement in the cases of persons whom we desire to help and improve. But if the doctor wishes to help a human being he must be able to accept him as he is,” Carl Jung observed.


Self-acceptance is the greatest liberation of all. It’s “the most terrifying thing,” Jung said. But your best life depends on it. It’s like giving yourself permission to awaken the unconscious part of yourself you’ve been suppressing just to fit in.


In his classic, 'The Red Book' (his “confrontation with the unconscious”), Jung wrote, “Be silent and listen: Have you recognised your madness, and do you admit it? Have you noticed that all your foundations are completely mired in madness? Do you not want to recognise your madness and welcome it in a friendly manner? You wanted to accept everything. So accept madness too. Let the light of your madness shine, and it will suddenly dawn on you. Madness is not to be despised and not to be feared, but instead, you should give it life… Be glad that you can recognise it, for you will thus avoid becoming its victim.”


In Buddhism they believe that since our mind creates everything, no external cause is really creating any pain for us. It’s only the illusion within our mind that creates the pain we feel. The external cause is what draws our attention to the pain that already exists. They mention the same exact thing in the book ‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz where they talk about people experiencing life as the result of their own reflection in a mirror. Two people walking in the street on a rainy day, a bus passes by too close to the kerb soaking them both. The chances are that their reactions will be very different. This is because of our internal issues and subjective perceptions of the world. One of them may be annoyed but decides to laugh at it, while the other one is still screaming and swearing at the bus driver. The first one will recover from this in the next 5 minutes and the second one will still be mad the next day. Which one are you?


This meditation by Ram Dass may help you to let go:


Ram Dass, Boreta, and Superposition 'Awareness' meditation


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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