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My Thoughts For You

Updated: Jan 25

A few Truths have been swimming through my heart. I will share them with you here.


The soul's purpose is evolution: Become the CEO of peace.


Darkness is your soil and pain is the fertiliser. You need it to grow. Suffering is the mud for the lotus: You can’t grow a lotus on marble. Everyone suffers. We are just so focussed on ourselves that we don’t see it.  We're racked by guilt, shame, anxiety, and depression. It's time we made a profound commitment to be and do better.


Change your thoughts and you will change the world


I have transformed from being a doctor and surgeon to being a servant of the world in creating miracles. Call it what you will: Deep coaching or Super-coaching: My purpose is to bring Truth and light to those who do not see yet, but are willing. You will need to be prepared to face all your buried pain. Pain is the touchstone of evolution and transformation. It's time to take another path and break through to the other side.



You are not what you've been through but what you've overcome. Your past is not your identity. It's your preparation.


People are afraid to be themselves. People are afraid to express love. People are afraid to tell the Truth. People judge themselves and others constantly. People are devoted to criticism more than compassion, to ridicule more than kindness, to hatred more than love.

People are more committed to being right than to being happy. People are more concerned with looking good than living their Truth. People care more about impressing people who don't care than serving people who do care. Our values and way of being are misaligned, dysfunctional, and damaging. I'm standing for love, freedom, and a way of BEing that works to create a better world for everyone.


Childhood trauma

So many of our societal dysfunctions are the result of childhood trauma and a society that not only doesn’t recognise it but worsens it with the hustle culture and marketing things that are addictive, including social media.



Companies are marketing to people’s pain. There is despair everywhere. We need to put a mirror up to society: Let’s see what they see in it that they can’t unsee.


Why are we not recognising this and making children’s lives better?


We are moving in a direction that is maladaptive and may even threaten the survival of our species. 


The neurons of the brain are changed when a child is traumatised. Parents are causing trauma by not spending enough time with them due to financial pressures. There is a scarcity of presence. This leads to attachment issues due to the stress from the wound. There is an epidemic of stress that parents are passing on to their children. This affects all social demographics, and is perhaps more hidden in the 'upper echelons' of society.


Our education system is creating malleable workaholics who are told that to ease their pain they need to work harder and buy more things. 


Peter Levine says that trauma is a disconnection from your true Self. 


The problem is that people who aren’t healed are leading society and institutions.


This society is based upon filling our emptiness from the outside. Yet we are literally falling apart and therefore so is our society. Understand your trauma and feel your pain then let go of it. 


Hopefully you will come to realise that having everything that other people value doesn’t bring you joy or peace. Then you realise that not having it doesn’t take away your joy or peace. That’s the real lesson. Love is all.


Mark Twain wrote "Drag your thoughts away from your troubles. By the ears, by the heels or any other way you can manage it. It's the healthiest thing a body can do."


It says in Isaiah 64:8 "Yet you, LORD, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand."


Enlightenment is the unlearning of thought system based on fear and the learning of the thought system based on love. All hatred comes from fear: All fear comes from a lack of unconditional love in your life. Enlightenment is the Truth beyond delusion. 


There is a life of light and freedom on the other side.


Your mind can't be grateful and anxious at the same time. Look for gratitude when anxiety takes hold.


As you heal your attractions change too: Toxicity stops looking like excitement and peace stops looking like boredom.


If you believe it will work out, you'll see opportunities, If you believe it won't work out, you'll see obstacles.


Your pain will not determine your future. Who you are as you go through that pain will. 


Lao Tzu said that "A man with outward courage dares to die; a man with inner courage dares to live."


Marcus Aurelius wrote that "Nowhere you can go is more peaceful - more free of interruptions - than your own soul."


Thich Nhat Hanh wrote that “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. When you are born a lotus flower, be a beautiful lotus flower, don't try to be a magnolia flower. If you crave acceptance and recognition and try to change yourself to fit what other people want you to be, you will suffer all your life. True happiness and true power lie in understanding your Self, accepting your Self, having confidence in your Self.”

Letting go of worry

What if we knew for certain that everything we're worried about today will work out fine

What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time? Furthermore, what if we knew that three years from now we'd be grateful for that problem, and its solution?

What if . . . we knew that even our worst fear would work out for the best?

What if . . . we had a guarantee that everything that's happening, and has happened, in our life was meant to be, planned just for us, and in our best interest?

What if . . . we had a guarantee that the people we love are experiencing exactly what they need in order to become who they're intended to become? Further, what if we had a guarantee that others can be responsible for themselves, and we don't have to control or take responsibility for them?

What if . . . we knew the future was going to be good, and we would have an abundance of resources and guidance to handle whatever comes our way?

What if . . . we knew everything was okay, and we didn't have to worry about a thing? What would we do then?

We'd be free to let go and enjoy life.

Today, I will know that I don't have to worry about anything. If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.


If you can remain positive in a negative situation, you win.


Today, remind your Self that you are capable, divine, miraculous, loved, and enough. Remember, everything will be fine. All is well.


All of us fight hidden, silent battles against not being good enough, not having enough and not belonging enough. Isn't it time that we stopped doing that?


Relationships

If you love your Self, you love others. If you hate yourself, you hate others. In relationships with others, it is only you, mirrored.


The psychiatrist who described the stages of grief, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said "The opinion which other people have of you is their problem, not yours.”


Thich Nhat Hanh wrote that "Buddhism teaches that joy and happiness arise from letting go. Please take an inventory of your life. There are things you've been hanging on to that really are not useful and deprive you of your freedom. Find the courage to let them go." Enlightenment is a process of endlessly letting go.


Shame dies when stories are told in safe places.


When we have experiences that stay with us in an emotionally heavy way, part of the, "heaviness" that we carry, is the, "untold story" of it.


In society, it can become part of our conditioning that we need to just, "get over" things, "forget about it", "move on", or "not dwell on it", and unfortunately, this can create a belief within many of us, that we need to carry our burdens alone and silently, that we need to push our emotions down and hidden away in the shadows, and we feel as though we have to keep up appearances in a way where we project an image of, "there's nothing to see here".


The problem with this, is that this form of suppression and having these untold stories within us, can lead to a great deal of emotional pain in the longer term, whereas having shared your story externally to your Self, can mean removing the pain of the story internally within your Self.


Pain shared is pain halved every time you speak to someone openly and honestly.


At times our untold stories can be difficult to tell to the ones we know and love, and we might just need an objective fellow human with a compassionate unconditionally loving heart, an empathic soul, an Enlightened Witness, a supportive shoulder to lean on and a listening ear, so if you ever need someone to be here for you, I am only a Zoom call away.


Love is the only true teacher, the only true understanding, the only true knowing.


Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said “Learn to get in touch with the silence within yourself, and know that everything in life has purpose. There are no mistakes, no coincidences, all events are blessings given to us to learn from.”


Whatever you accept about yourself cannot be used against you. Be willing to

own your Truth, even if it makes others uncomfortable. The good and the ugly are

all part of everyone's story. You never know who you can inspire by being your authentic,

unapologetic Self.

Ram Dass said that "Unconditional love really exists in each of us. It is part of our deep inner BEing. It is not so much an active emotion as a state of BEing. It's not 'I love you' for this or that reason, not 'I love you if you love me.' It's love for no reason, love without an object."


Wayne Dyer said that "There is no greater power in Heaven or on Earth than pure, unconditional love. The nature of the God force, the unseen intelligence in all things, which causes the material world and is the centre of both the spiritual and physical plane, is best described as pure, unconditional love."


Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said that "I think modern medicine has become like a prophet offering a life free of pain. It is nonsense. The only thing I know that truly heals people is unconditional love." She continued “Love has no claims. Love has no expectations. Most of us were raised to become prostitutes. We have the illusion that with good behaviour, good grades, lots of awards, pretty clothes, nice smiles, we can buy love. How many ifs were you raised with? I love you if you make it through high school. I love you if you bring good grades home. Boy, would I love you if I could say my son is a doctor. You become a doctor or a lawyer, or whatever your parents never were able to become, with the illusion that they will love you more. Love can never be bought. There are people who spend their lives prostituting themselves, pleasing other people in the hope of getting love. They will shop the rest of their lives for it and they will never find it.”


Steven Levine wrote “True love has no object. Many speak of their unconditional love for another. Unconditional love is the experience of BEing; there is no ‘I’ and ‘other,’ and anyone or anything it touches is experienced in love. You cannot unconditionally love someone. You can only be unconditional love. It is not a dualistic emotion. It is a sense of oneness with all that is. The experience of love arises when we surrender our separateness into the universal. It is a feeling of unity. You don’t love another, you are another. There is no fear because there is no separation.”


Vaclav Havel wrote that "Truth and love will overcome lies and hatred."


Love is the power of God.


A few timeless Truths in modern form

In the Bible James 4:11 it states "Walk away from conversations that involve hate and gossip."


In Proverbs 11:9 "Walk away from unnecessary drama."


In Proverbs 26:20 it states "Walk away from people who put you down."


In Exodus 23:1 "Walk away from the table if respect is no longer being served."


I see you, I hear you, I see the divine in you.


Speak in such a way that others love to listen to you: Listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.


Namaste.


Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


Olly



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