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The Map of Your Life

Updated: Jun 25, 2024

Goals don't work, they just make you miserable. They also limit your possibility. What’s wrong with goals? What do I mean by all this?


Your possibility is not set by your ego, it's set by your Higher Self. In simple coaching (as opposed to Deep Coaching and Transformative Life Coaching) you set goals and then try to achieve them. This is nonsense. Why? Because your ego plays small even though it thinks that it's big: It sets goals that it knows that it can achieve. These are not goals, these are simply tasks or a 'to-do' list. Your Higher Power sets a vision of infinite possibility. So the real question is, what would your true Self want to do? For this you have to elevate your consciousness in order to perceive what you are capable of. Who would you need to BE in order to imagine what you could really achieve? My job is to see that higher possibility in you, until you see it for your Self.


The map of your life

You are at point A right now. You want to get to point B. Where you actually end up is point C. It's a bit like an archer who calculates intrinsically all the parameters to hit a target in the bullseye. But once you let go of the arrow, the Universe intervenes with wind and so you hit point C instead of point B. And that's ok: As long as you surrender to it and accept it.

What you forget is that point A and C are the same in the present as points C will become your new present from point A. You are already where you are meant to be. As Einstein said "God doesn’t roll dice". When you look back on the trajectory of your life you will realise that it all made sense in retrospect.


Don't make your Self miserable

Your fear, anxiety, and stress are the distance between point A and point B as you’re trying to control everything to get a certain outcome with regards to people, places, events, and things (wind strength etc.). In this way you are ensuring that you will never be happy as you can’t control the Universe. That’s the same as the distance between you and your Higher Power.


Conscious contact with your Higher Power

The way to reduce this distance is to improve your conscious contact with your Higher Power through prayer and meditation. As Yoda would say "Use the Force, Luke". You also need to be patient. André Gide wrote “One doesn't discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a very long time.” You don't become someone who surrenders point B overnight. Life is an exercise in surrender. When we've let go of our old certainties but aren't yet established securely in the new, we may be afraid we’ll flounder forever. During periods of indecision or risk - when we've let go of an unfulfilling job or relationship, for example, or when we've admitted powerlessness over an addiction - we don't have to retreat into doubt or fear. Now is the time to let go of our reservations even more completely. We're not reckless; we've made the decision to enter unmapped territory because of a deep need for change. Our inner wisdom is with us; we can breathe and listen. We can remember that others have made changes like ours and are fulfilled and happy. We can have Faith that our Higher Power has not brought us this far only to abandon us. We can feel exhilaration, surrendering the need to control our process of change. We can open to surprise, inspiration, and success beyond our expectations.


Part the Red Sea

Also know that your Higher Power will give you all you need as you meet lessons (what you formerly saw as obstacles). You would do well not to think of the Red Sea of difficulties that lie ahead in hitting your target. I am sure that when you come to that Red Sea, the waters will part and you will be given all the power that you need to face and overcome your many difficulties, like Moses, and meet what is in store for you with courage. I believe that you will pass through that Red Sea to the promised land, the land of the spirit where many souls meet in perfect comradeship. I believe that when that time comes, you will be freed of all the dross of the illusion of material things and find peace.


So simply trust that point A will become point C, and that point B was never meant for you, and accept the result and surrender fully to presence and the guidance of your Higher Power. 


Arthur Schopenhauer wrote that "Talent hits a target no one else can hit; Genius hits a target no one else can see." So, isn't it time you let go of paltry goals? It's time for you to hit the bullseye that no-one else can see...


You are the archer who hits a target that no-one else can see


Namaste.

 

Sending you love, light, and blessings brothers.


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I have a Bachelor's degree in Natural Sciences from Trinity College, Cambridge; a Master's Degree in Philosophy from Trinity College, Cambridge; a PhD Doctorate in Scientific Research from University College London (UCL); a Medical Degree (MD/MBBS) from The Royal Free Hospital School of Medicine, London and have been a doctor and reconstructive trauma and cancer surgeon in London for 20 years. I have published over 50 peer reviewed scientific journal articles, have been an associate editor and frequent scientific faculty member, and am the author of several scientific books. I have been awarded my Diploma in Transformative Life Coaching in London, which has International Coaching Federation (ICF) Accreditation, as well as the UK Association for Coaching (AC), and the European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC). I have been on my own transformative journey full time for four years and I am ready to be your guide to you finding out who you really are and how the world works.


 
 
 

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